Supporting a child with dyslexia can be challenging, and even well-intended comments might not always help. It’s important to choose our words carefully to ensure we are offering encouragement and understanding. 

Here’s what you should avoid saying to your child with dyslexia, and what you can say instead to foster a positive and supportive environment.

1. “If you try harder, you’ll read better.”

Imagine asking a child with dyslexia to climb a flight of stairs without help. They might take longer, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t trying hard. Kids with dyslexia already put in extra effort just to keep up. Instead, try saying, “I know reading can be tough. How can we make it a bit easier and less frustrating for you right now?”

2. “Other kids don’t need to know about your dyslexia.”

Dyslexia is an important part of who your child with dyslexia is, just like their personality or hair color. Telling them to hide their dyslexia can make them feel ashamed. Instead, you might say, “Your friends already see how creative and talented you are. Sharing that you have dyslexia can help them understand you better and appreciate all the unique things you bring to the table.”

3. “Maybe we should think about alternatives to college where reading isn’t so important.”

It’s easy to lower expectations for a child with dyslexia, but they can achieve great things with the right support. Instead of suggesting they consider other paths, say, “I believe you can achieve anything you set your mind to. If you want to go to college, let’s find one that offers the support you need to succeed.”

4. “If you don’t learn to read, you’ll never be successful.”

Learning to read is important, but it’s also okay to explore different methods if traditional reading isn’t working. Instead of setting limits, try saying, “There are many ways to enjoy reading. Some people use Braille, and others like audiobooks. We’ll find the best way for you to read and succeed.”

5. “Using a spellchecker is cheating.”

Just as ramps help people in wheelchairs access buildings, assistive technology helps a child with dyslexia with their learning. Instead of calling tools cheating, say, “Many people use technology to help with learning, just like some use glasses or hearing aids. We’ll explore these tools together to help you become more independent and confident.”

Every child with dyslexia has unique strengths and abilities. 

By choosing our words carefully and providing positive reinforcement, we can help them build confidence and resilience. Remember, dyslexia doesn’t define your child; it’s just one aspect of who they are. With understanding, support, and encouragement, they can overcome challenges and achieve their goals.

Navigating the challenges of dyslexia requires patience, empathy, and careful communication. By avoiding phrases that may unintentionally discourage your child and focusing on supportive, empowering language, you can help them thrive. Embrace their unique learning journey and celebrate their successes along the way. With the right support and encouragement, every child with dyslexia has the potential to shine and achieve great things.

It’s also important to recognize and celebrate the small victories along the way. Each step forward, no matter how small, is a testament to your child’s determination and growth. Acknowledge these achievements, and remind them that progress is just as important as the end goal. By fostering a positive environment where your child feels valued and understood, you’re not only helping them with their learning but also boosting their overall self-esteem. Together, with consistent support and belief in their abilities, your child can overcome the obstacles of dyslexia and reach their full potential.